Sunday, April 27, 2008
On happier notes - we have progress in so many areas with our amazing little boy. He is learning more words every day and he is speaking so well it is truly a miracle. He just realized today he can click his tongue to the roof of his mouth and it makes a noise (AWESOME). He is eating well - we still have him on a liquid diet but I let some pears ripen and peeled and sliced them and he was able to eat that with no possibility of damage. I really believe our surgeon will release him on Tuesday to go back to school and move up to soft foods. I look in there all the time and he is looking great. I know I should have taken some before and after pics... but he is already conditioned to open his mouth if a flashlight is in the vicinity - I didn't want to start him having that reaction to the camera. He is gaining in being affectionate (to me and close family) every day. He gave hugs and kisses to Nana and Papa yesterday for the birthday celebration and then again today - he now will let me hold and kiss him multiple times.. and runs to me when I come home from work or whatever. He is beginning to be a little assertive with EFP (particularly around his stuff) and stick up for himself - which is a good sign. He is able to stick his hand out for her to return something that is his - and he is no bully, which I am grateful for. She is still a little girl and so doesn't really understand how important his things are to him. They do play nice a lot - I just have to watch for the green-eyed monster on both sides. It is interesting though - that from totally opposite ends of the field - they both end up in the same place. She is so secure in her place and with her people and things and he is still thinking that this could all end tomorrow... so they are both territorial and jealous. I believe all will really be well.
On a final note - let me say for the record... I was right. He is a truly amazing child and he could not have been ANY ONE ELSE'S SON but OURS! He is my DH to a (much smaller) T and in a way - they are more perfect for each other than anyone realizes. As to this Mommy's heart - he is everything I could want in a son.... and then some. His smile just melts my heart. All is well and my dear dear children and simply the best best best decision I ever made. Both.
Friday, April 25, 2008
While you are surfing - why not check out the annual "Born in My Heart" Art Auction that funds Love Without Boundaries' work in China with Children waiting for families.
Now back to our regularly scheduled programming:
10 years ago April 25th - on a Gorgeous Day - much like today - I married the great guy I share my life with, adopted my kids with and adore. 10 years went so fast... 2 amazing children and life in the slow lane on LI - and there are times I literally cry that my life is so filled with unexpected goodness. Right now - the minor difficulties are so far outweighed by what is going right: here are a few gratitudes: my son hugged me after running to greet me when I got home from work, my daughter says I am the best Mommy in the whole world, my husband still makes my coffee every single day - even his day off when he could sleep in, he gets up and makes my coffee, perfectly; I got a (long overdue) promotion at work, all my loved ones are happy and healthy, the cats are now staying away from #1 Son and that is making him happy, #1 Daughter has entered the year of being 3 happy, healthy and SO IMPERIALLY DEMANDING - that I have decided the 2s were NOT so TERRIBLE! Yet, she is a veritable angel at childcare - what's up with that!
Yet - here we are. 10 pretty happy years together and although we have our moments - I wouldn't trade my life, my DH or my two kiddos for anyone or anything. For those of you in the know (meaning you were at my wedding or on my honeymoon) You will recognize the Life is Good - and yes, life IS still GOOD! So - thank you Me Honey - the last 10 were a piece of cake - what d'ya say to 10 or 20 more? (uh, years not kids!)
Thursday, April 17, 2008
About 7:00 - still no drugs and in the holding area... He is teasing me!
This is after surgery - he is giving me the evil eye - he's in pain and somewhat confused. He will have morphine in a few minutes - he needed it.
He really loves the balloons AND animals!!
He discovered he could blow and the feather will fly up - then he blows some more....
The view is stunning... my office is really far over to the left... LOL
Wednesday, April 16, 2008
The surgeon said it was a great procedure... his cleft palate is now whole (YAY!) and he should be able to hear. (YAY!)
We had to make a last minute change of plans.. (as you can see) I am home and DH (or Daddy of the year... ) is at the hospital. Unfortunately - in our decision making we decided that since I would be the better one to negotiate our complex University Hospital (I work at the University) I brought our son this morning and now he has not forgiven me. I am sooooo sad about that - but I think once again our best decision has made us make a better one... he doesn't cry as much when DH is there... he wails when I am... so I am home with the Empress.
Thank you to all who called or emailed... or left a message. I can't thank you all enough... it is truly during these milestones (Both the happy and the hard) that we come to learn what how big our circle of friends and family really is - and how much we NEED them all. EFP spent a very happy afternoon and evening with Auntie Ren and now is sleeping like the Empress she is. She is sad that daddy and "brudder" are not here and worries that "brudder" is ok without her... aaww!
I am so exhausted (had to be in Pre-surg by 6:30!) so I am calling it a night.. will post the few sad pics tomorrow... hugs to all... XOXOXOXOXOXO
Tuesday, April 15, 2008
He has had a day and a half of pre-school and he is in his element! He is so cooperative (still thinking it is temporary!) and sweet (permanent!) that his teachers adore him and the other kids are so accepting and kind that he just loves being there.... so of course we are not sending him tomorrow... ugh. I know in my head that this is right - we were so fortunate to get this spot (otherwise it would be July or August!) and have his surgery so quickly... I keep reminding myself (and others have also reminded me) that he had his first two surgeries in China with NO pain meds, no anxious Mommy & Daddy, no top Docs, no kind nurses (though I am sure there must have been some - but I work where we are getting our son's surgery - I figure that collegiality will count for a little something.....) and certainly no goofy little sister who will be so sad tomorrow - but happy to cheer him up when he gets home!
I know that even during our rocky start - I still held tight to the vision I had of that smiling little boy that I just wanted to hug and love..... I am still doing that but to THE BOY - and my vision was true - he really is the sweetest and most charming little guy... so if you have a second, spare a happy (healing) thought for our little son who has already been through so very much to get this far.... and a thought for his anxious parents, and all those who are in our corner... cheering us on. It is going to be a rough couple of days...
Sunday, April 13, 2008
The Clothes make the Boy or the Boy makes the clothes?
Happy Birthday Dear Empress - Happy Birthday to you!
Ah - The Pacies - The Pacies! (Oh When Oh When Will these Pacies Leave - Oh When Oh When Will they GO!!!!???)
A view to a room!
Thursday, April 10, 2008
Sunday, April 06, 2008
Saturday, April 05, 2008
We spoke to Baba on the phone a few times just so EBB would realize that he was not gone/lost and that seemed to go well. All in all I think things are looking up... EFP asked for a nap and although EBB doesn't always nap he had a short rest period and that worked wonders. We had a fun romp outside (it was GORGEOUS today) and that also was a big delight. After dinner DH took BOTH kids for a wagon ride and they kids had a blast.
What is not to like ??? I am getting to the picture situation... XOXOXOXOXO
Tuesday, April 01, 2008
I am in a confused state. Given how much I wanted to adopt again my current state is curious. I find it hard to warm to this new child - in part because I think his very boyishness is just too jarring for me at this point. His screaming constantly at the two furry inhabitants first out of fear and surprise - and now in a bid to get rid of them - has not been fun for any of us. The kitties least of all. I can honestly say I love him - but all the other stuff will take some time. I suppose it is also that he gravitated toward DH and not me and while I am happy for them - they do seem to be kindred spirits - it is perhaps hard on a Mommy not be first with the new kid!
I will get over myself and have already identified some great characteristics in our new son: he has a quick sense of humor, he really does remind me of my DH (both annoying and endearing actually!), he does seem MUCH neater than the other people who live around here, and he is pretty bright - only needs to see something once to get the hang of it. While I think it may take some time - and work on my part - he really is a little charmer. His speech is much better than we expected and although at the moment he mimics rather than speaks of his own volition, he does seem ready to take off. Our new plan includes getting him into school ASAP. I will have to battle the school district but will do so because anyone who saw him would know he barely belongs in K - let alone 1st or 2nd grades. I do think it is important because I suspect he is lonely without other kids and the routine I think will help him adjust better. Perhaps the sense of normal - I don't know. I really don't but this seems to be the direction we are headed in. After we get his medicals underway... I know I owe LONG posts and pictures... and I will catch you all up on both... but for now this is how we stand!!